Why some doctors think life coaches can be dangerous

Part 1:

When we think laterally about our problems we are more likely to find solutions

I recently had a client who was warned not to see me by her physician. He recommended she go back on anti depressants despite her explaining to him that she has improved remarkably over the past 3 months. Her attempt to also explain she was only feeling down due to a recent circumstance at work and needed a couple of days to implement some personal development exercises that will reduce the the stress and get centred was greet with disinterest.

The doctor expressed his concern that he believed seeing a life coach is dangerous and advised this should be avoided. I was informed that he didn’t seem interested in how her life had improved and what was the current circumstance that was causing undue stress. He seemed eager to put her on a mental health program aided by anti depressants without a diagnostic that would warrant it. He also attempted to ignore her wishes to take time out to think about her decision to follow his recommendations. 

At the payment stage there was another attempt by the admin lady to pressure her into paying for the mental health program. After reinforcing her right to think about it and refusing to pay for the program referral charge, she walked out disappointed by the doctor’s lack of attention and respect.

I get a lot of clients who are caught between following a doctor’s medical advice and wanting a drug free solution to addressing their personal challenges. This is why I wanted to write about the issues involved in this important process that is often compromised by fear, confusion, conflict and distress.

Firstly, it’s important to clarify that you are personally responsible for your health. When you visit a doctor, they can advise and write you a prescription, but it‘s your personal responsibility and choice whether you follow that advice and purchase and ingest that prescription. Most people do not feel they either have this choice or feel they’re being irresponsible if they don’t follow it.

Coincidently, I had a coaching session with a very experienced doctor yesterday who explained that one of her biggest challenges in her profession was the expectation to have the answers and be 100% responsible for a client’s well being. From discussions with doctor friends and several doctor clients, I have come to learn that they do their best with great skill and impeccable intentions, but are pressured by pharmaceutical corporations and society to solve problems they are not fully equipped or trained to adequately handle.

Progressive doctors a very conscious of society’s overdependence on their medical advice as the solution to their health problems.

Perth based and guest Today Tonight current affairs presenter Dr Joe Kosterich shared with me his concerns recently.

“Not everything that ails people has a medical cause. When we feel down due to events in our lives, that is not a medical issue.” Dr Kosterich said.

“The solution is to address the issues rather than to frame how we feel in a disease model. Sadly society has become conditioned to think every problem has a pill as an answer, he said.

 “Engaging with a counselor or life coach can help people work through problems and come to solutions,” Dr Kosterich said.

While many doctors may advocate life coaches, the temptation for some doctors to accept the inferred responsibility for a patient’s total health needs should be considered for the potential problems this can cause.

Regarding mental health, doctors can only view your body and brain as a biochemical neurochemical machine that is ‘out of balance’ because of your genes. They are not trained to address how diet and attitude can be root causes of your stress, mood swings and overall lack of confidence, even though many of them use common sense and do a decent job bringing this to their patient’s attention. 

While doctors have their place in providing physical pain relief, when they move into attempting to offer mental and emotional pain relief, this is officially out of their jurisdiction. It’s not to say the anti depressants they are trained to prescribe do not have an extremely helpful purpose for many people in desperate need for a reprieve from unbearable emotional pain.

The main challenge is if you are offering a band-aid solution to a wound that keeps bleeding, at best you’re only numbing the pain and this may be a welcome bridge a patient needs while they develop coping skills to heal from their ordeal. However, there is also a high probability that you are inevitably prolonging and potentially worsening the personal issues that caused the person to be depressed in the first place because numbing the pain can often tempt the person to lose motivation to address the core issues of how they have been relating and contributing to the problems.

To attempt to understand why a doctor would view a life coach as dangerous is to appreciate their reliance on controlling the person’s perception and mood to keep them from self-harm. This is a legitimate concern, which can pressure a doctor to desperately want to err on the side of caution simply because it's the only way they know how to care for their patient.

If a life coach does not engage the person at the core issues and manages to guide the client into a personal development program that builds their self esteem and provides proven tools to help them deal with their personal issues, then they run the risk of that person resorting to desperate measures to end the pain and that may lead to attempts to end their life.

Most people are depressed because they simply are missing the tools that would help them address the circumstances that give them a reason to feel depressed. If drugs kept as a last resort, then motivation to learn and apply the tools can be intensified, increasing their chances to apply themselves to aligning their mental and emotional state to empowering new ideas and habits that can create lasting change.

The risk of becoming dependent on medication can mean that their only option is finding the next drug that will replace the one that is gradually losing its’ effect on maintaining their even mood. This is a very disempowering and risky road if you talk to the countless people already on it. They explain that as you are transitioned off one drug and onto another, your desperation to escape the emotional and mental anguish reaches dangerously new highs. Many attempt suicide in this terrifying phase – I have witnessed this struggle first hand.

For anyone stuck in this predicament, seeing an inexperienced life coach who is not capable of providing effective personal development coaching, can make the doctor’s fear more than justified. There is not a cut and dry solution for anyone. One thing is clear though; the independent adult in emotional pain is the best person to decide what course of action to take given they will have to experience the full brunt of their consequences.

Additionally, one must appreciate the cause and effect nature that determines our moods and shapes personal experience. How we relate to ourselves and our relationships can make them empowering or toxic. We can address sabotaging beliefs that were learned and can be unlearned, that will instigate a much needed breakthroughs and establish lasting change.

From my 15 years experience in the coaching field, I have formed the view that it’s important to seek life coaches who address confidence and personal empowerment as a foundation of their coaching program. Having success based goals is one thing, but reaching the core issues that affect your confidence, clarity, motivation and lack of resilience and being able to address them is profoundly more important than the achievement of the goal itself.

The journey can be as sweet as the destination. You ought to find a way to feel great about who you are and enjoy going about doing the very things that lead you to personal success in a natural way. When you’re in emotional pain, this is feedback to suggest your ideas need re-evaluating because some of them are simply incompatible with well being and will continue to sabotage your efforts to succeed. 

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George Helou is a Mind Power Life Coach and  Personal Development Perth based in East Perth, Western Australia. He developed EP7, an Empowered for Purpose in 7 Steps Coaching Program. George is also trains  Perth Life Coaches to add the EP7 process to their life coaching service. 

 

Finding Your Purpose

Purpose seems to stay elusive for many of us. The reasons stem from a lack of understanding of what keeps us from our purpose. Stress and survival based living is the first issue that needs addressing.

It does make sense that we need to feel safe and protected before we can afford the luxury of going after quality experiences that are based on love and adventure. The need for protection however is often subjected to a distorted perception. We misinterpret situations as being threatening to our safety when the majority of the time, nothing could be further from the truth.

A main source of our distress is ironically relationships, the very place we are meant to be enjoying love and adventure. This goes to show how much perception can predetermine what we experience. My clients very early on in our coaching sessions get to realize in detail that our environment cannot exist without being distorted by our personal filters that interpret it. This means our beliefs mold how we perceive everything.

So how do the very people who are meant to provide opportunities for love, caring and sharing end up causing confusion, hurt and anger? Personal Development Perth conflicts are more to do with a lack of understanding rather than dealing with people who may mean you harm.

How often do you mean well but are misunderstood and end up reacting to someone distrusting and disrespecting you? This insight should help you realize without being aware, you are also prone to doing the same to others when you are feeling down and sensitive.

Sometimes you catch yourself doing it and may apologies, but enough times you are left assuming you were in the right and are not given the opportunity to learn it was a misinterpretation. They or we abruptly end the friendship prematurely out of desperation to feel safe. The cut and run response is a very common coping mechanism when we are feeling hurt and vulnerable.

If you are caught in high stress caused by this self-sabotaging pattern, then there is a good chance that living a higher purpose is going to be put on the back burner indefinitely. You are left to perceive your environment as hostile, filled with ill meaning people you cannot afford to trust.

This state of mind creates a downward spiral with relationships because we become oversensitive and defensive, alienating new relationships that resent our lack of trust. We also have contaminated the source that can feed our higher purpose because of our compromised filters. We know this because we feel compelled to protect ourselves from people rather than risk and be vulnerable through sharing more of ourselves.

So the first step to finding your purpose is to find the worth within you that can afford you to feel more secure and empowered, thereby expanding your means to trust and be more vulnerable with others. Your physical and emotional well being are prerequisites to having quality relationships and rewarding experiences. An extraordinary relationship with yourself makes it possible to have extraordinary relationships with others.

Feeling your worth and connecting with the fact you’re bio engineered to be extraordinary is the beginning of establishing that healthy relationship with you. From 100 billion neurons in your brain, 100 million neurons in your gut and 40,000 neurons in your heart tells a story of intelligence and purpose within you that goes way beyond the intellect.

Bio engineered to think in infinite ways and feel what you believe means you can correct the distorted and dis empowering filters that prevent you from having a healthy balance between protection and growth. Identifying with your existing personality as if it’s who you really are can no longer hold as truth as you realize you can take on any personality trait that empowers you to live your values. 

Your ability to serve your physical and emotional needs by evolving your personality and its’ filters is the same skill that then leaves you content and able to pay it forward to others. Fill your cup and it will effortlessly overflow into others is a metaphor used for thousands of years.

Finding your purpose begins with finding yourself. By doing so, you realize how great you are and you deserve love, truth and adventure without having to prove anything to anyone. This level of self-actualization increases your personal empowerment and resilience, meaning you are now fully equipped to not be tempted to take things personally and allow misinterpretations to unnecessarily deteriorate relationships. This is how you evolve your personality.

Personal and work relationships can be likened to glue that bonds us to enjoyable quality experiences. These quality experiences are made possible as we commit to giving and receiving between each other through our values. This uniting through love paves the path to our higher purpose as our signature essence is allowed to express. The more it expresses the greater the contribution through the gift of giving and receiving our uniqueness with each other.

In summary, finding your purpose begins with realizing you matter enough and are capable of undoing the conditioning that has been dis empowering your perception. A perception that justifies staying stressed and continuing to allocate your resources for protection. You cannot be in growth if your brain perceives an urgency to protect you. The brain is programmed to assure your survival before you it can allow any focus on the quality part of your Perth life Coaches. As you can see, the personality filters make growth impractical and a luxury you can never afford; an illusion that must be dissolved.  

Once achieved, the path to finding your purpose then continues on a road filled with value rich quality experiences that expand your perception, increase your wisdom and provide opportunities to make a real difference in your life. It stands to reason that to make a real difference in the world, learning to make the difference in your life is the first step.  

Perth Life Coaches are the Better Life Savers

There can be thousands of sayings regarding life and how to live it yet none can provide the true picture of what life really is. In fact, no one up until now has honestly understood. Life as we know it, is not an easy track, it has its up and downs, rise and falls but that does not categorizes life to be complicated rather it is our own instincts that force us to believe what we see. The choices we make, the roads we take, the people we chose, the chances we lose are all a part of vitality, during this one may succeed, one may be left behind or one may be stuck half way across the road. They are befuddled and foundered. They are helpless and backsliding. Here comes a time when all they need is a little hope. Hope is what motivates them and encourages them to let go of all their fears and get their lives in gear. The question is who is willing to stand up to them? Who is willing to give away their pride and fight for them? The answer is very simple. Perth life coaches do not only let them learn how to access their inner souls but also to find the answers they have been searching.

Life coaches Perth are so far the quintessence in bringing out a change in people. They help restore a person's self-esteem and try to draw out his potential. To coach is to get the very best out of someone and to help him or her make decisions that would improve their lives to guide them from erroneous and to be a positive influence. Perth life coaches are different from other psychologist or therapists; they have a unique way of developing people. It is profoundly discrepant from counseling, therapy, giving advices or mentoring. First, they help discover what is most important in a person's life then they succor in making a design plan moreover, they contribute in eliminating the impediments, later they bring out a perfect person. They make sure that no one is being imposed or pushed on to something they do not want. They believe that the answer to every question is within the person and all they have to do is to stimulate the thinking powers that are obscured.

Personal development Perth is the evolution of a person's well being. It helps radiate progress and forges ahead one-step making sure and keeping in mind that one's self esteem is not hurt in any way possible. Life coaches are experts in coaching every demeanor of life whether it is family, business, relations, career, finance, health and much more. These problems are not just for mentally ill people, but a normal person living a healthy life can be affected by intimacy anytime. That is why life coaches Perth aims to provide the transcend help in getting a cluttered life organized, boosting one's self esteem, overcoming fear and negativity, dealing with stress and strain, helping in career planning, financial budgeting, furnishing health, spiritual and personal growth. Not only is this but there no way a life coach cannot handle any problem.

Perth life coaches are the best lifesavers one can find and there is no doubt about how a person can find the lost soul so easily, how he can improve his lifestyle and draw out a new and better version of himself.

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